Social Media and Anxiety

I have always embraced social media and praised its virtues. But I have always been socially awkward too. I long thought that sites like Facebook were a Godsend for people like me because I could be social with people all over the world,  and I didn’t even need to leave the comfort of my own home.

What I didn’t realise until today was how quickly things can go from great to awful if one uses social media while suffering anxiety. I’m not talking about having the sads, or feeling a bit stressed about the bills. That I can get myself over with some distractions, or some positive self-talk. No, I’m talking about the kind of anxiety that comes up behind you, shoves you to the ground and buries you up to your head. It’s paralysing, invisible and can send you insane or worse.

While under the influence of anxiety, normal perspective is weakened. You can hear, see and feel things differently. A comment or a post can be misread, misconstrued and in the absence of verbal tone, body language and immediate feedback can feel like an attack on our very person.

Little wonder then that it is the perfect storm for suicide.

Tips to adjust socail media activities and enjoy a less anxious life.

So, here are some tips I have compiled to help those who are at risk of anxiety while still maintaining an online presence.

  1. Cut off all social media contact by dinner time. Tiredness is a comfortable bedfellow of anxiety. Put your phone on charge for the night, in a place where you will hear it ring but out of eyesight.
  2. Make a pact with a few online friends you trust, to contact each other if you start to feel like your social media life is getting the better of you emotionally. This will make the decision to find help easier when you are in the grip of strong anxiety.
  3. Make it a habit to keep your phone in the boot of your car, while travelling. You should still be able to receive calls, but won’t be tempted to look at it in between light changes (and they can be quite lengthy).
  4. Make yourself go for a walk every day. Even if you only go to the mailbox, the change in setting can work wonders for your perspective.
  5. Trim your social media ties to only those that raise you up as a person. If they don’t leave you feeling better, ditch them. This goes for friends as well as groups and pages.

There are different things you can do, but this is what I consider the bare minimum in order to prevent negative social media experiences from taking over.

. Your emotions are valid and important and should be treated with nurturing hands.

Let me know in the comments section if you have any other tips for negotiating social media.

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Understanding the world of today- through a mum’s eyes.

Is it just me, or is the world a scarier place today than it was yesterday, last week or even last year? I experience the world with ever-present thoughts of how my child will be affected, whenever I read a piece of news. Will she need to know how to safely fend off a sexual predator? Does she understand that her looks are just wrapping paper and that her insides are the gift? Can she stand up for what is right, and deal with popular opinion being against her? The answer is yes, yes and yes. It doesn’t make the job of being her parent easy, but I will find a way to help her to understand these things. Now If I can just get my own head around what I did to deserve such a gorgeous child, I will be golden. xo Elizabeth

Elizabeth Bullock author

Simpler times, when sleeping off a milk-induced coma made mum happy.

Reading out of my comfort zone

Elizabeth Bullock - reading out of your comfort zone
In order to expand my creative skills, I am experimenting with reading outside of my comfort zone.  I have chosen this book because I have a thing against short stories.  I want that long term commitment to characters, and I hate getting into a story, only to have it end on me. So yes, this book is outside my comfort zone. 

But, isn’t the cover just fantastic? Well, here goes…

Liz xo


Monica McInerney and self-acceptance


I had the great fortune to hear author Monica McInerney talk yesterday about her new book The Trip of a Lifetime, and writing in general. The one thing that I came away with was how accepting and unquestioning she was with what her imagination chose to create. She seemed to have blind faith in her creative self.
It occurred to me that I am very unaccepting of my own imagination, something I wasn’t aware of until yesterday. This is deadly to writing good, interesting work and something I need to really work on. Fear in general I think can be very damaging to writers, when it paralyzes creativity.

This is the gift of attending author talks- you never know what you are going to learn. So, thank you Monica.

-Liz xox


Finding your groove as a writer

One challenge I didn’t think about when I decided to be serious about writing was how to find my groove. No, I’m not talking about dancing, but the subtle art of getting comfortable with a writing routine that works. As I write this I am in bed, propped up with pillows which make it all very comfortable to tap away on my tablet. But would I be better off sitting in a secluded corner of a cafe, where I would be coaxed to get out of my own head and draw inspiration from what is around me?

For now I will wing it, and see what feels most natural. Although I have decided that handwriting is not going to happen. Does anyone use pen and paper anymore to write? I think that the begining of all things like this are akward, stiff, and  uncomfortable. A bit like learning a new language, or starting at a new school. Which gives me hope. 

What routines and “rules” do you use when writing? I would love to see what everyone else does. 

Until next time, 

Liz xo


“The Stolen Child” by Sanjida Kay


How was it?

I have just finished this book and had to blog about it because it was so good. I don’t normally read thrillers, but something made me pick this book up (Ok, it may have been the cool cover design…).

The book tells a story about a couple who adopt a child from birth, with the consent of the mother but not the father. Years later, the father tracks his daughter down, with a mind to take her back.  But he hadn’t reckoned upon the fierce determination of adoptive mother Zoe, and the strength of her love for Evie.

It features modern issues such as infertility, adoption, fetal alcohol/drug syndrome, child abduction, marriage, infidelity, and trust. And for some reason I have one of the main male characters imagined as Jermaine Clement. Go figure!


Jermaine Clement, star of “What we do in the Shadows”, a hilarious movie about Vampires.

Sanjida writes in a way that reads like a movie, which is the best kind of writing. I also find myself wondering if all of the people characters are ok now, and have their lives sorted as if they are real people.  I hope to be half as good at writing one day.

If you are looking for a book to read, do yourself a favor and read this one.

I give it 7/10.

Until next time,



A Surprise Round Every Corner

I love research, finding the little details. I guess that as you are writing almost on behalf of the characters, you want to get the details exactly right.
Great post, Sandie.

At the Sydney Writers’ Festival on the weekend, one of the events I went to was ‘The Most Unlikely of Paces’ all about authors and their research. It was a fascinating panel and one that I was particularly interested in because one of the things that has surprised me most about my own writing journey, is the amount of research I’ve had to do for my two novels, despite the fact I write contemporary fiction.

If you haven’t read Brooks, do. She’s brilliant.

If I were writing historical fiction, then I would expect to have to do a lot of research. Geraldine Brooks, an absolute writing God when it comes to this genre, does so much research for each of her novels it is mind-blowing. But when you write a story about the first Native American to graduate Harvard in 1665(Caleb’s Crossing), or a story about an English village cutting…

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